I remember when I was a child, at playtime, we always lined up with great enthusiasm and some anxiety to be chosen by one who was the captain of one of the teams that were formed to play a football game, we were only boys, at that time the girls did not usually play football. I was one of the chosen ones, but there were many who were discarded, with the frustration and disappointment that this implied that it was a stigma, for what was put in other areas of the playground to play, or with the other things.
If I made a comparison with what is happening today with new technologies, the Internet and social networks, I would say that nothing has changed, except that girls already play everything, we still want to be elected, living as addicts in need of likes, to be part of teams and feel integrated, accepted by others. We want to be followed, we want to be liked, we want to be "pop" and for that we are willing to do anything for which, unintentionally, we transfer it to our children in the same way.
This reckless attitude towards approval in search of the recognition of others, destroys our most primitive instinct that protects us from threats, that instinct to protect ourselves, to get away from danger and thus survive. Our desire for recognition and acceptance makes us vulnerable to predators and those are now on the Internet. If as adults we are not able to maintain our instinct for protection and security, how are we going to teach our children, our young people, to protect themselves in the digital environment? This need for acceptance is due to the fact that it has absolutely reckless behavior and that it endangers the most basic minimums about our privacy, our privacy, etc. Almost at a time when it is not digital.
Our children are hooked on the fever of liking everyone equally, are losing their privacy, and their authenticity. It is the function of the parents, it is our role, inescapable, as parents, as educators, to give them values such as privacy, intimacy and be able to give the right tools for the new digital native generations so they know how to care, appreciate and give great importance to what will shape your digital life. You have to start talking about digital identity, online reputation, scalability, the right to forget and its difficulty, but its existence. All these issues must be mandatory at the moment of initiating our children in the use of new technologies. You must know what they want to say, what they want to have on the Internet (photos, audios, videos, etc.), what they want to know in social networks, what content they have on their identity and what they will talk about them on the Internet and what they have to talk about the terms I've talked about before.
Going back to the past, where perhaps it was easier to educate, I remember that in small or not so small populations, it was very important that people did not know everything that happened in the life of the families, there was always gossip, but they were not certainties, why it was easier to live and even if there was someone who did it, he suffered from presumption, in the end, but he had proof, because it was a rumor, even so on many occasions, the person or family that had been talked about was stigmatized, marked with gossip. Now it is exactly the same, slander that something is left, say the gossips, the problem is that defamation, in these times, crosses the ocean in the thousandths of a second so it does not stay in the close environment.
In short, taking account of all cases that come to family counseling, lack of response, lack of acceptance, lack of acceptance, rapid insertion and ignorance of the similarity of new technologies, social networks, Internet with traditional life, by part of parents, makes that the smallest run the risk of having problems related to predators, those who hate, slanderers and that is vitally important a good formation and information regarding a Internet, social networks and new technologies to learn from each other. Only then we will avoid the bad side and make the good side of the digital age prevail.